Engagements and weddings are full of fun. As soon as you announce your engagement, you’re sure to receive tons of unsolicited advice from your friends and family. Much of the tips and tricks are helpful and can really be used on your big day, however sometimes the advice may be a little less great – or absolutely, downright horrible!
We have decided, as the Wedifun creators to provide you with a top ten list of the WORST possible wedding tips, and of course, how to avoid such a disaster for your wedding planning process!
#10. This is YOUR special day and you can do whatever you want!
True, this is your special day. But it’s important to think of your guests, your wedding party and of course your husband-to-be. It is a much better idea to treat everyone with respect and listen to others opinions when you can! For example, letting your bridesmaids help choose their dresses can avoid much unneeded drama. Avoid a cash bar, which can make your guests feel uncomfortable.
#9. Send invitations to those who ‘deserve it’ – even though they won’t come
You are much better off only inviting people who you EXPECT to show up at your wedding. Just because you think they won’t show up – doesn’t mean they won’t. In the end, they might choose to make an appearance and you might end up stressed with overcrowding.. And busting your budget! Yes, you might get the extra wedding gift, but is it worth the hassle?
#8. Have the Cocktail Hour before the ceremony
This is definitely not a good idea. Have cocktail hour before your ceremony and you risk exchanging your vows in front of a rather drunken crowd! A better way of organizing your wedding might be opening the bar after the ceremony, but serving fruity, non-alcoholic beverages before like lemonade or cucumber water.
#7. You should take out a loan for your wedding or be fully prepared to spend more than a 5-digit sum!
No! Taking out a loan to fund your money is not the way to go. Alright, the average US wedding cost may be of $25 000 but many spend much much less and are entirely rewarded with a personal and meaningful wedding. Starting a marriage with debt is no fun and neither are money issues so instead, save diligently and be proud of your wedding (and its price tag)!
#6. Wear a white dress on your wedding day, or people will think you’re not a virgin
Thing is.. Chances are, you’re already not a virgin! We’ve all heard this one before and in fact, this ‘wedding rule’ is completely antiquated (or getting old!). Way back when, a white dress was traditional but today, you can find a virgin-bride wearing ivory or even red (GASP!). It all comes down to the same thing: wear what you’re comfortable in and what works best with your skin tone.
#5. Cut back on wedding costs by organizing a BYOB
Actually, keep in mind that a wedding, and the reception, is an event that you host and everyone you invited are your guests. For this reason, you should never expect them to provide for their own drink, or even food.
Costs sometimes may be an issue. However, you can look into having an early brunch with mimosas or even having your wedding catered by a local restaurant. These are often money-saving tips that will please you and your guests equally!
#4. You don’t need a wedding planner
A wedding is stressful in and of itself. Taking charge of the entire planning process (unless you’re a party planning guru) can cause extra anxiety and problems that are greatly unwelcomed. Sure, you can take charge of certain details – maybe even let your mom give you a hand on the more person decisions, otherwise we recommend leaving most of this task up to the pros.
#3. Skip out on a professional photographer and save on expenses!
Keep in mind that after your big day is over, all you will have left are the memories and the photos!
We totally agree that the apps and websites where your guests can post their mobile pictures is amusing, but are dimly lit, blurry photos really what you want to commemorate your wedding?
We greatly recommend the use of a professional photographer, but understand that price can be an issue. Remember that photographers can be found and hired at varying price points and you can always negotiate a flat rate for a few hours – before handing the task over to a room of amateurs!
#2. You can’t please everyone
This one is a little contradicting because true, it is physically impossible to please everyone. Planning a wedding isn’t a simple task and sometimes it’s necessary to pick your battles and come to the realization that some just aren’t worth it.
Of course, we know that every bride has their limits. But it’s a really good idea to ‘play nice’ whenever possible to avoid an unforgettable, drama-filled wedding.
#1. Type and print generic ‘Thank you!’ notes beforehand
Thinking of printing out the same thank you note for everyone and simply sticking a label with your names on them? Think again. The people you invited are your guests and should be treated as so. They did take the time to choose and pay for your gift (whether it was on a registry or not) and therefore, it is your job to be gracious and considerate to write out a personal note.
This task is much easier done once you’ve received your gifts! In a timely fashion, take a moment to thank each of your guests personally with a handwritten, heartfelt and signed note instead!